Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable

Who here likes being uncomfortable?

Anyone?? Yea, I didn’t think so. As human beings we are wired to avoid pain and being uncomfortable at pretty much any cost. That was a good way to operate way back when, but as serious threats to our safety have reduced (you know, no more hunting and gathering) and society has made great technological advances (you know, like electricity and running water), the things causing us discomfort have reduced in a major way. All of this is a good thing, of course, but what do we as humans do? We still work to identify and avoid pain and discomfort, but those threats look different now. Instead of seeking shelter to avoid physical threats of extreme heat or cold, we seek means of distraction to avoid personal and emotional discomfort. The threats have changed, but our basic wiring as human beings has not. We do not like being uncomfortable.

So what’s the easy answer to this?

I hate to break it to you, there is no easy answer. The bottom line is you cannot outrun yourself. There is no amount of distraction that will take you completely away from yourself. I have always liked the saying “Wherever you go, there you are“, and I recently watched a movie that was a great visual representation of that phrase.

It was called Hector and the Search For Happiness. It was a fun, quirky, heavy at times movie about a man’s quest to find happiness. He travels all over the world only to realize that (spoiler alert) he can’t find it anywhere else but within himself. If you’re searching for something new to watch, I’d recommend it. (It is rated R, so be warned if the kids are around. Here’s the trailer if you want to see what it’s all about). And yes, it is old (2014)..but don’t judge. I rarely get to watch new movies right when they come out. I’m all too happy to comfort-binge Frasier over and over and over, ok?!

Anyway.. the movie contains a quote that sums up the truth of the struggle perfectly. In it a character says “More important than what we are searching for, is what we are avoiding.” I mean, come on. That hits you right between the eyes, am I right?! You can try all sorts of ways to avoid whatever pain or discomfort you are feeling, but at the end of the day you are still there. Your thoughts and feelings are still there. No amount of distraction can change that.

Nothing Worth Doing Comes Easy..

So..now what? If you read last week’s post, you know that I had an intense self-realization about the status of my life and forced myself to open my eyes to my truth. Was it a comfortable process? Heck no! It is still a work in progress, and it takes work on a daily basis to keep my eyes open and do the hard work of creating a better life for myself. It also takes time. It takes work. There is no quick fix. There will be days that you feel great and are handling all your business with ease, and other days that feel like you are slogging through waist deep mud and making zero progress.  But trust me, it does get better if you do the hard work. You can do hard things.

You’ve got to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

~Vickie

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