Best Laid Plans: The Life Lesson That Never Stops

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I had an entirely different post set for this week, but I was reminded yet again that the best laid plans of life are rarely seen through to fruition.

Not In The Plan

This past week, life threw my best friend of 35 years a curveball. You know, one of those curveballs that knocks you off your feet entirely and forces you to rethink just about everything you do in life. If any of you are baseball fans, this would have been one of those curveballs that the announcer would have called “NASTY!”.

My friend is going to be ok thank goodness, but has a long road of recovery ahead of her. With all that she is facing, I find myself thinking a lot about my own preparedness, reliability, and support systems.

Who You Got?

When push comes to shove and you need someone to be there for you, how many people can you call? Really think about this. Whom do you have in your life right now that will be there (RELIABLY) for you in a time of crisis. I don’t mean the friends who are the “let me know if there is anything I can do” type, and then disappear as if they’ve been taken into the witness protection program. And certainly not the type that say “Yes! I will be there at 5pm.”, only to not show up and text and hour later saying something else came up.

How many people do you have? I’m guessing you can count them on one hand. For me, I have three. Three people that I know who will drop everything and come to me, no questions asked. (For full transparency, my husband is one of those three, so he’s contractually obligated.) See what I mean? When you get down to it, the tried and true friends that are RELIABLE are pretty few and far between.

What’s In Your Plan?

So, what is included in your best laid plans? I’m guessing a lot of us have a plan for our life that does not completely address all of the “what ifs” that life can throw at us. Who really wants to think about that stuff anyway, right? It’s not sexy, it’s not fun, it can be scary, and frankly it can be a bit morbid. But let me tell you something: If you don’t think about it now, you will be completely overwhelmed by these things when the curveball comes.

Do you know what you would do if you were injured and unable to work? Not just for a day, but several? Do you have enough savings? Medical coverage? People to help you at home? See what I mean? With each question I’m sure you feel like I do..afraid, overwhelmed, and ready to bury my head in the sand.

Revamp Your Plan

So, what are we to do? Keep our heads down and ignore the curveballs that we know are coming? No Way! We’ve got to revamp the plan. We need to do the hard work of making preparations and lining up “our people” that we can call upon when we need them. We must do the research to find out if we have the financial support and protections in place.

It’s hard and uncomfortable work, which is a skill that takes a lot of hard work too. If you missed last week’s post I wrote about learning to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. You can check it out by clicking here.

Call To Action

So, my dears, what can you do today to become more prepared for the changes that will happen to your own best laid plans? Make a list (I love a good list!): Who can you reach out to and talk about these serious life situations? Who do you trust to make medical decisions for you? Contact your health care provider and see what financial assistance programs they offer. Find out if your creditors offer assistance programs for reduced payments or skip payment options? Find out if your insurance covers services at the hospital closest to you? Did you know that an ambulance will take you to the nearest hospital, not the one you may want to go to? I didn’t until this past week. Do you have a will? An advanced directive? Do you even know what that is? Best get to researching, girl.

Take some time today and write down all of things you can think of. You will thank yourself that you did when the next big curveball comes.

I wish all the good health and smooth sailing for you and your best laid plans of life, but we all know that wishing does not make it so. Don’t turn away from the hard parts and hard conversations. Do your best to be as prepared as you can and you will get through whatever life throws at you with a little more ease.



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