I’ve got news for you – I wasn’t always in full embrace of who I was.

It wasn’t until I became a parent myself that I was confronted with the fact that in order to be a full and complete parent for my daughter, I had to accept all parts of myself and who I was as a person.

How could I expect her to be true to herself and accept herself fully, when I couldn’t even do it? So that meant delving into my own issues surrounding my cleft and how that shaped who I am today. And let me tell you, it wasn’t always pretty. It took a lot of work, a lot of self-reflection, and a lot of hard truths realized for me to get where I am today.

It is from this work that I want to share not only my process with others, but more so, to share my experience so that others may not have to wait as long as I did to fully accept themselves as they are.

Here are the current offerings Vickie has available.


Elevate your event with Vickie’s unique speaking services at Dragonfly Paradigm. By blending personal insights with evidence-based resilience techniques, her talks offer a refreshing and impactful perspective. Inspire your audience with a memorable experience that combines relatable narratives and practical strategies, fostering resilience and growth. Contact us to discuss how Vickie can tailor her message to bring a transformative touch to your event


Raising Resilient Children Online Program - A Guide For Every Parent

Experience a transformative journey in parenting through my unique framework—the nine building blocks of emotional resilience. Empower your kids to thrive while nurturing deeper family connections on this self-paced, insightful path.


Whether for schools, parent groups, professional organizations, or corporations, Vickie brings a unique blend of relatability, actionable steps, and engaging presentations to empower your audience. Discover how to fully embrace resilience skills, thrive in adversity, and foster personal growth in every aspect of life.

Customize your workshop experience by contacting Vickie today. Craft an ideal session that meets the specific needs of your group, and embark on a journey toward building resilience that lasts a lifetime. Transform challenges into opportunities, and empower your community with the tools to navigate life’s journey with strength and determination.


Free Resources

“I just signed up for your free guide. Wow, I’ve been hoping for a resource like this. Thank you for being such an amazing support to so many people.” ~ Jennifer

10 Keys Resilience Guide

As a woman born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate, my life has had its share of emotional challenges. I had my first surgery before the age of 6 months old, and a total of thirteen surgeries by the time I was 14 years old. Despite those struggles, I have learned and developed resilience building strategies that continue to carry me through the challenges of life as a cleft affected person.
Helping your child build their skills of resilience is going to be a process. Let me help by taking away some of the worry and providing you with the support of this free resource so that you and your child can enjoy a full and emotionally supported life. Click the image to get your guide.

Six Step Communication Guide

Growing up with a bilateral cleft lip and palate, I have had to answer the question "What Happened To Your Face?" more times than I can count. It is from this lived experience that I am sharing with parents of cleft affected children, 6 steps that will help you work with your child to build knowledge, understanding, and confidence to answer questions, set boundaries, and use tools to help remove themselves from bullying situations. Helping your child build their skills of communication regarding their facial difference is an important part of learning to become a confident and resilient individual. Get your free guide now by clicking the image.

Quotes to Inspire

I love quotes. From Brene' Brown to Wayne Dyer, and many others, there is something so comforting in reading a few words from someone who may have felt like I do at a particular moment. The cleft journey is one that is full of ups and downs, challenges, and triumphs, and finding little moments of inspiration or understanding through the words of others has always been a great help to me, and so I put some of my favorite quotes together in the hopes you'll find some comfort too. Get these quotes right now by clicking the image.